Thursday, April 08, 2004
stms i reali hate..well not hate, but dislike my maid intensely.*she talks too much.gets involved in ma family matters tt she cldnt be involved in.
*she doesnt reali do her work nowadays.spents too much time doin above.
*gets reali bitchy if i ask her to help me do some stuff. e.g. ironing.why? cuz she'll be watching suntv.
*as above, she watches too much suntv.even more than i watch disney/nickelodeon/starworld combined.
*she makes ma room "all neat" and then loses my stuff in da process.
but basically, i dun like it t she acts like one person in front of ma grandma n parents, and another in front of me n ma elder sis.cuz my younger sis likes her la.
sigh.but stms, my heart goes out to her.earlier on, i was on ma way to e LoOOoO, then she was on e fone, wid her family back in Sri Lanka..
she seemed so sad, so tired out n withered, so worried.i cld practically feel her worry being in da same place as her.her sis's gettin married soon.and basically, her family think she's some muli-millionaire over here.so they're tryin to make her support the whole wedding.which is quite stupid.cuz she got her own weddin to worrie abt.i mean, she's 30 plus n single.the guy she's supposed to marry, well dunno much abt him, dunno if he's still waiting.
she's sendin back almoz every penny she earns here.nth much left fer her. these past 5 yrs or so workin for us, she hasn't bought anythin much fer herself.my mother scolded her e other dae, fer not savin up fer herself n sendin every penny home.n God knows if THAT money is used properly.sigh.every letter she gets is mostly abt how they need more money fer some weird expenditure and how there's some new problem tt's come up.basically, all negativities.
i reali pity her sometimes. the times when she gets letters from home, and the expression i see on her face, as if thinking.."tthere's no end to this" and the concern i hear on her voice everytym she talks to her family members, everytym she tries to discipline her reali rebeliious younger bro who refuses to go sch (he's 14), everytime she gets her pay n sends it all back to them, starin back at e "nothingness" tt remains, everytime she talks to my mum n grandma abt e problems back home, belief it..there are ALOT of problems.
her dad passed away a few yrs ago, when she was workin wif us.we offered to pay fer her tix home, so that she cld attend to e last rites n be wif her family.but she didnt want to, saying its no point n wad's happened has happened, n not to waste e money cuz she'll need it to send back.sigh.i reali felt like crying then, on her behalf.my mum told her not to work fer a week, while she sat there starin into open sapce.sigh.
now tt i think of it, maybe all those nitty gritty stuff tt i get irritated wif her abt, isnt reali worth gettin irritated over.i mean, compared to all that she's gone thru? still gg thru? its nothing..so she watches too much tv..wif all the drama in her life, maybe e tv drama's e onli thing she can relate too..so she talks too much, u cant expect a person to haf a mouth n do nth abt it..heck i can be talkative too..so she's slacking..so do we..dun tell me we all keep up straight A grades thru e yr? and she's juz doin her job cleanin my room.
i shd cut her some slack.we, juz going thru stress in sch, complain so much and act as if we're going to die any moment juz cause we've got extra stuff to cram into our minds.but in da mind, we're the ones who are gonna succeed..but look at yr foreign domestic helpers.
they travel all the way here, away from their loved ones and homeland, to earn abit more so that they can support others.not themselves, not most of e time anyway.most of them are rather highly educated (my maid was a nurse back in Sri Lanka) and they suffer so much here, so much humiliation, so much suffering, abuse, mental anxiety, worry, concern so much everything.n we juz pick fault at them fer failing at something at a totally new, different environment.sigh.
i'm guilty of this too..a few days ago, ma classmates and i were totally puttin down our maids.and i feel rather bad abt it now, cuz i didnt reali think abt all this then.i'm aware that there ARE some rather haughty,obnoxious,irritatating and well, iderts who haf no possible proper reasonin fer their behavioour. but now, maybe we all can think abt wad our maids are going thru inside, before we put them down fer their actions?
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